• Frequent colds
• Prescription drug addiction
Pierre: We spoke about migraines on the phone, is that right?
“Yes, but the temptation to start pain killer medication again is very strong, if I could get these meds I would, on the other hand, my granddaughter is the light of my life and she said I would not be able to see her by myself if I did so. That is the only reason why I don’t take them. My whole family knows I am addicted to this stuff. It is an addiction; that is why they won’t let me see her if I take them.”
Pierre: I see…
“I haven’t gone out of my house for the last two months. I am really afraid of going back to medication. I need help and I don’t know what to do. I was always energetic and a good mother, it’s only in the last couple of years that I have been sleeping all the time. I don’t want to go the psychiatrist because they give medications but then by the same token my husband does not like my therapist. I am supposed to go away on a trip at the end of May, but I think what if the headaches or migraines come on, what am I going to do?”
Pierre: Tell me about your migraines, please.
“They usually start while I am sleeping around 3 or 4 AM. By 6 AM I feel sick to my stomach and I have to go the bathroom. Once the migraine starts, it last approximately 14 hours. I must tell you that I never feel good overall these days and I don’t know why. Why is this happening to me? I just wish I could feel better about myself. I want to be normal again. I have lost so much weight. I feel 20 years older than I really am. I always felt like a good mother; when my son had some special needs I became PTA president so that he would get a proper education. For someone who always tries to do the right thing and help others, I am feeling mentally weak. I am hurting my family but there are various different kinds of addictions in my family and I feel very embarrassed. I’ll tell you what. I always wanted to be a nurse but my girlfriends told me so many things about it that I withdrew my application. I was over 50 when I went back to school for it. The professor made one remark and I dropped out. What I do now is not satisfying me. I don’t know what else I can say to explain what I have done, or what I have been through, I need help.”
Well, let’s start with the feeling of needing help.
“I have always been the one to be there for others. When I was nineteen my father died, and I took over his stuff because my mother was out of it, she couldn’t deal with anything. The only time I am happy is when I am watching my granddaughter. Most of the time I want to cry and cry and cry a lot. Everything bothers me, I am letting everybody down, it was always the opposite. I just don’t understand what is going on with me.”
Describe the feeling of letting everyone down.
“I am not supposed to do that. I am supposed to make people happy. I have been like this since I was a child, it was expected of me. I was always the one who came through. By eight years of age, I ironed, washed, cooked, and I took care of my brother. I did things without being asked. I wanted to please. I would have done anything to make everybody happy. If I didn’t please them, I thought I was doing something wrong and I felt rejected.”
Tell me more about your migraines.
“I have had migraines since the headaches started. It’s always on the left side, and it is better if I lie down. Coffee or Coca-Cola makes it a little bit better. I never want to eat with the migraines; I only want to vomit while I have them.”
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Pierre: How are you feeling?
“The headaches are not as bad. It seems as if the remedy has kept them under control. I have had no sick headaches as I call them and no migraines. I have been sleeping much better and I fall asleep rather well, now. The temptation of taking medication is still there, although not having the headaches did lessen the temptation. I did not notice any change emotionally, but I must say that in many ways I feel generally much better.”
I present this case to show the necessity of keeping up with the follow-ups. It may sound obvious but some people don’t do it. It is a mindset from the medical establishment, one gives a remedy and that should be that. I believe this lady could be a lot better but without follow-ups it is impossible. What happens sometimes is that people don’t quite understand what we are doing. “How could this little remedy do so much? For so long the doctors have tried everything.” Indeed, it is mind boggling for some people. The remedy comes in a granule half the size of a Tic Tac. If it is liquid, it only takes a few drops under the tongue. This is what chapter two of this book explains. My answer to this is “Size doesn’t have anything to do with it. Accuracy has everything to do with it.”
The addictive nature of these medications to wreck a family is evident here.
The “Why me?” feeling although not very strong here is a very common one. It is human nature to ask the question, “Why me?” when something is wrong. Often the answer is “I have been a good person” or “I am being punished.” People often take themselves through either one of these two emotions during the consultation but “Why?” generally leads to rationalization which is not very useful for our purpose. What I look for is more of a spontaneous, instinctual feeling.
In many ways there is a strong theme of nurturing here but I need to figure out the feeling behind it.
Her story of being a young child with some responsibilities towards others in the family is surprisingly quite common, even in the U.S.
I wanted to know a lot more about the need to please and nurture people. I needed to see how that related to the migraines but she was very reluctant to talk so I gave a remedy the old-fashioned way by picking a few symptoms and cross-referencing them. This is a very valid way of analyzing the case, it simply is not the latest way of doing things. It helped.
Feeling better physically is great. Feeling better emotionally is wonderful and feeling mentally better is fantastic. If the follow-ups are kept up, wholesome beautiful health springs forth. It is a deep and secured feeling not just a little alleviation. If a little alleviation feels that great, imagine how much more can be achieved. In this case we have the added problem of prescription drug addiction. I can’t imagine the remedy restoring health for any amount of time longer than a few months under these circumtances. But c’est la vie. You didn’t think a Frenchman writing a book in English would not say that once, did you?